The newest thing I love about infertility:
When someone asks you how treatment is going and you say “It’s not going well at all. It’s been very hard on me and on A.” but you spare them the gory details. They are kind, well-meaning and empathetic. All seems to be going well until they say those dreaded words…
“You know, God has a plan.”
Really? Well I don’t think he has one for me, because I don’t even know that I necessarily believe in him. I believe in something but I sure as heck don’t believe in a Christian God, the one I was raised to believe in. I have tried to believe in him but I just don’t. Kind of like how I have tried to not have PCOS but I just do.
Also, if GOD has a PLAN I think the plan SUCKS!
6 comments:
That is my all-time least favorite comment...how can you tell someone going through this that it's part of a plan? Surely no "plan" would be this terrible and unfair. I'm so sorry you had to hear this recently--it never gets easier, that's for sure.
I hate this comment. Even the non-Christian one - everything happens for a reason... Hate it!!
Sorry...
So sorry... I think most people who say things like this have good intentions but it certainly doesn't help or make us feel any better!
Ugh, I hate that. Theres a plan or the lovely, "it will happen when its suppossed to". Oh really? yeah thanks I was worried my timing was off.
I hate that comment. I know they are saying it (usually) in good faith. It's getting to the point where I have to stop myself from saying something obnoxious back. I've succeeded so far.
I am so 100% with you! I often get told "It doesn't make sense to us now, but he really does have a plan" and that sort of thing. And then I imagine me talking to God, and I can't think of a *single* justification for all the shit--infertility, AIDS orphans, rape, etc etc. I either conclude that God is really horrible at his job, that he just doesn't care, or that he doesn't exist. I find the 3rd option the most comforting by far.
Post a Comment